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Crush It! How to Make a Living Doing What You Love

Thursday, June 17th, 2010

Sometimes when I ask my clients “If money weren’t an issue, what would you do with your time?” they answer that they don’t know or that they would sit on a beach all day. I think those responses are understandable, but I’m also pretty sure that they do know, and it’s not sitting on a beach all day.

What I’m really getting at is if they didn’t have to make a living and support their family, what would they want to do with the rest of their lives? Or put even another way, is there anything they are doing right now that absorbs their attention to the point that they lose track of time and forget to eat?

We all have the potential to feel that engaged and excited about something and it is my belief that we are happiest when we are devoting a good bit of our time doing that thing. And I further believe that you can even make a living and support your family while doing it!

I certainly am not saying that you should quit your day job right this moment, but you can lay the groundwork to make that a feasible option sooner rather than later. (If you know me, you know that I’m not a big fan of the “I’ll get to do what I really want when I retire.” plan.)

So first things first, do you know what you’re passionate about? If you don’t, I’ll ask you to be a bit of a time-traveling detective. What did you love doing between the ages of 9-11? Studies show that your childhood interests and talents hold clues to what would give your life its greatest sense of meaning and satisfaction today.
If you can’t remember, what ambitions did you set aside when you were younger because “you couldn’t make a living doing that”? What chance meetings stand out for you? What are some of the things that others have said about you that have stuck with you over the years?

Now imagine yourself saying “I feel excited (or strong, or purposeful) when I am…” Remember you are talking about something you are doing, not something that is happening to you.

There really are so many possibilities for finding meaningful, satisfying and lucrative work, but we often don’t see them because we have been conditioned to believe that life is made up of doing a lot of things we don’t want to do and working for money is chief among them. So the really important thing is to decide that you want to do the thing and stop worrying about if it is practical.

I recently read Gary Vaynerchuk’s book “Crush It!” He has an interesting test for determining if you can “monetize” your passion. It consists of one question: Can you think of at least fifty blog topics that you’re excited to write about it? He feels that number of posts is the minimum you’ll need to give yourself enough time to get a feel for the situation.

He goes on to say that if you have indentified your true passion, you’ll find five hundred things to say about it. And people will want to hear – and pay to hear – what you have to say about it.

He contends that when you are doing what you truly love, even the smallest niche (he points to a woman who blogs about knitting and sells hand-dyed yarn) can sustain a nice forty-to-seventy-five thousand dollar-a-year business. Since that is what most of us make at our can’t-wait-till-Friday jobs, it sounds like a good deal to me!

Napoleon Rich, who wrote the classic Think and Grow Rich, offered a great series of steps to help you achieve your dreams and I’ve adapted them to include here.

1. Have a definite purpose, backed by a definite desire.
2. Create a definite plan expressed by definite action.
3. If you experience any negative or discouraging messages from others, try to understand that your desire is creating some discomfort for them – probably because they wish they were acting as boldly on their desires – and do not take it personally.
4. Have a friendly alliance with one or more persons who will encourage you to follow through with both plan and purpose.

One of my clients works in a foreign country and found lucrative work in translating documents, but she doesn’t love it. She has a background in teaching and really loves young children, but she also wants a lot of flexibility in her schedule to be with her young son.

She recently decided to create a multi-cultural language program using songs, stories and games and proposed it to schools in her small town. She is delighted by the prospect of doing this work, and she will further benefit by setting her own hours and rates. I also encouraged her to create an “information product” from her program that could be sold to a mass market. She will clearly crush it. How about you?

Stacey Curnow works as a certified nurse-midwife in North Carolina, and over more than 15 years her career has taken her from western Indian reservations to a center-city Bronx hospital to the mountains of southwestern Mexico.

She has been an enthusiastic student of positive psychology for years and applies it to her midwifery and life coaching practices with great success. You can find out more about her services at www.midwifeforyourlife.com.

Blog: “http://www.staceycurnow.com/blog”

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Creating Change: Step 4A – Work through your blocks to change

Sunday, February 7th, 2010

If you’ve used some of the tools I’ve been teaching, you have probably identified fears and beliefs about yourself, the world, life, and “the way things are” that are consciously or unconsciously keeping you from realizing your dreams. It’s only when you identify these limiting beliefs that you can work to dissolve them, which you must, if you don’t want them to continue to sabotage you. An effective way of working with beliefs involves challenging them cognitively. Byron Katie has developed a powerful technology for challenging beliefs in her Work, and I’ve adapted a few of her methods here.

Cognitive Inquiry
We can challenge our beliefs by asking ourselves questions and being scrupulously honest in our answers. Often we believe things that we’ve never questioned, that we just assume are so. Now is the time to challenge all assumptions!

For instance, if one of your main reasons for not moving forward on a dream is that you think you’re too old, ask yourself if you know for a fact that that is true. I like to ask, would it hold up in a court of law? Remember, if there is even the shadow of a doubt, the jury cannot convict, and neither should you. It is your supposition, not a proven fact. Collect evidence that might actually support the opposite – search out examples of people your age or older who achieved what you desire or even greater things. You’ll be amazed at what you find.

If you believe you cannot succeed, can you absolutely know that to be true? Obviously you cannot. Yet you act as though it were a given. Notice how your behavior is based on myths you have created and which you never question.

Another thing to look at is, “How do you react when you believe that thought?” When you tune into your felt sense of your body/mind/feelings in relation to the belief that you can’t succeed, what do you notice? Do you feel stronger or weaker? More happy and hopeful or more despondent and collapsed? How does it affect your energy and mood? Do you like it?

If it affects you negatively, how does this impact your chances of succeeding? What is it really that makes you unlikely to succeed? Your age or your negative beliefs, that lower your energy? Ask yourself, “Is this belief productive?” Does it support your goals or undermine them? Is this what you want? Which beliefs would support you better? Make a list of beliefs that would be your allies, not your enemies.

A very liberating question to contemplate is: “Who would I be without this thought?” Let yourself temporarily let go of your limiting belief – just let the idea that you can’t succeed completely dissolve and evaporate – and notice what that feels like. Realizing it is actually only a thought helps you do this.

Once you let it go (temporarily) you may get a glimpse into a state of freedom you didn’t know was available to you. Linger awhile there, taste and enjoy that freedom and spaciousness, and what it opens for you as possibilities..

Continuing the courtroom metaphor, you might also try on the argument for your defense instead of always being the prosecutor. Taking the question of whether or not you can succeed, search your memory for examples of yourself succeeding, going all the way back to Kindergarten if necessary. Do an inventory of your little and big successes. Most of them you probably have forgotten, dismiss, or diminish in value, but they all count! Your friends and family may be helpful here.
When you’ve done all of these steps, you will have seriously loosened the grip of that negative belief. You will no longer be able to believe it naively, as you once did.

If you’re still having doubts, consider the insight that something can be possible even if it’s not probable. In other words, you don’t have to believe it’s likely that you’ll achieve your goals, only that it is remotely possible! But then you have to take action and invest in that possibility!

It helps greatly to find role models — others in your category (too old, no education, whatever it is) who have actually succeeded. And believe me, they are all around if you look for them. A book I heartily recommend (in which I happen to have a chapter) is Overcomers, Inc.: True Stories of Hope, Courage, and Inspiration. If that book doesn’t convince you that anything is possible, nothing will.

To access all 8 Powerful Steps to Creating The Change You Want, download Tomar Levine’s Free Report at http://creatingchangereport.com

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